In my view, a husband is master of the home and has ALL the responsibility for the home including cooking, cleaning, laundry, indoor and outdoor maintenance, inventory of food and supplies, and all repairs as he would have if he lived alone.

When he gains a wife, a helpmeet, she is helping HIM with these responsibilities and he should ever be grateful for this assistance.

If I were to look at my wife and think that what she is doing is "her job" then I lose appreciation for the help and consequently the respect that accompanies gratitude.

If I am cleaning my bedroom and my wife jumps up and says, let me help, I am grateful and of course she moves faster than I do so we eliminate the job quickly.

If I say, "I have to get this laundry done" and she says, "oh I can get those in the wash if you'll carry the baskets to the laundry room" I am again grateful for this would be my task alone without her.

As she is sitting there folding clothes, it is nothing for me to come and grab the folded and put them away ... or jump in and help fold what's left because again ... this is MY responsibility and she is helping me.

I have the obligation of feeding my family so when my wife jumps in and organizes the list and places the order for pickup (we live rural) I am relieved of that task and am grateful.

Perspective is critical here because I never lose sight of the FACT that all of these things are MY responsibility and every thing she does is to help me get these things done in a decent and orderly fashion.

My wife lives a very happy joy filled, laughter filled life, and I am deeply grateful for the constant help, tremendous respect, and courtesy we show one another on a daily basis.

I cook meals for my whole team and there are times when she is not available because she is off to do a chore, and I feel her absence.

So when she is in there with me and getting "prep" done, I am always so very grateful for her assistance and she is very good.

We carry big loads and do a lot of things daily and never do I consider these things "her job" but instead, my own responsibility and I maintain an attitude of gratitude for each task SHE helps ME with.

I share this because it works for both to have the right perspective and to maintain gratitude and respect for there was a time she was not there to help and the responsibilities were still mine.

Every single day I am grateful for Mindy the love of my life and bestie!